Men from different walks of life gathered at OR Tambo Hall in Khayelitsha on Saturday 27 February for the Thetha Ndoda Men’s Dialogue hosted by the Ayanda Ndamane Foundation. The event focused on the challenges faced by men in society.
Addressing mental health and gender-based violence
The founder and director of the foundation, Ayanda Ndamane, described the event as a platform for men to speak out. He said the dialogue focused mainly on mental health and gender-based violence (GBV). The objective, he explained, was to allow men to open up about the challenges they face daily, whether at home or in the broader community.
Men urged to speak out about their challenges
“In many cases, young boys are left behind. No one is talking to them. Even their fathers don’t know where to go or who to talk to, which often leads them to shebeens to relieve their stress. I’m trying to create a safe space for them where they can share their problems freely without being judged,” said Ndamane.
He also condemned the African idiom that says indoda ayikhali (a man doesn’t cry). He stressed that men should feel free to express their emotions, including crying when they need to.
“Many men bottle up their emotions and end up committing suicide. Wheareas if they shared their problems they could get the help they need,” he explained.
Ndamane added that the foundation plans to visit local high schools and participate in community activities to further engage with young men.
Community leaders guide boys into responsible manhood
The founder of the Somagwaza Institute, Sikelela Zokufa, described the event as a great initiative. He said their role as traditional practitioners is to guide boys in their transition to manhood.
Guiding young boys toward responsible manhood
“This is a critical stage where we educate young men about the challenges they will encounter in life. We are also helping to change the mindset of young boys to think positively,” said Zokufa. However, he emphasised that teachings must start at home and urged men to be present in their sons’ lives.
The director of the Stemele Foundation, Thulani Stemele, described the event as an eye-opener for many. He urged men to take responsibility within their communities.
Community leaders highlight the importance of mentorship
“The primary duty of a man is to protect his family and be a role model in the community. We need men to mentor their children,” said Stemele.
