In the face of personal adversity, Nambitha Nqakala, a visionary woman, has emerged a beacon of strength and resilience.
Having endured the challenges of her drug-addicted son’s actions Nqakala found herself subjected to societal judgment.
However, her response was not one of defeat but a determination to rise above her circumstances. Diagnosed with depression amid the ordeal she decided to channel her experiences into a positive force for change.
Nqakala’s journey took a transformative turn when she initiated the Kwanele (enough) support group for women grappling with similar challenges. “I was tired of wanting help for him, and I now needed help,” she said candidly. “I needed to take care of me.” The support group, consisting of women who share the common experience of having children addicted to drugs, aimed to foster a community where members can lean on each other for strength and guidance.
“My child is now 32 years of age with two kids, whom I take care of,” another mother, Nokuzola, said. “She has been smoking since 16. I’ve done all I could with no help, even from rehabilitation centres.”
The emotional mother’s journey reflects the heartbreaking reality many families face where, despite exhaustive efforts, the grip of addiction can remain tenacious.
Another member, Ntombekhaya Yabo, a former addict, emphasised the critical role of family support in her own struggles. “We need help. I thank God I’m still alive. My family has been my source of support and always said ‘There’s no bin for throwing a child away.’ These words stuck with me and are the reason I still stand.”
“Because I have hurt many through drug addiction I am here to support Esonalo George, an ex-addict.”
As the leader of this support group Nqkakala aimed to create a non-judgmental environment where mothers can openly discuss their experiences, share coping mechanisms and find solace in the shared understanding of their struggles. The initiative is not only about offering emotional support, but also breaking down stigma associated with substance abuse and mental health challenges within families.
Nqkakala’s story serves as an inspiration for individuals grappling with similar issues, emphasising the importance of seeking support and prioritising personal well-being.
Acknowledging the need for professional training to better assist those in similar situations, she said the support group was in the process of undergoing relevant training. Nqkakala stressed the importance of community support in the group’s endeavours to address widespread substance abuse.
As these resilient women come together to form a network of support, Nqkakala and her group are calling for assistance from the community at large. Their commitment to training and education reflects a proactive approach to addressing the complex issue of substance abuse, not only within their families but within the broader community. The courage displayed by Nqkakala and members of the Kwanele support group serves as an inspiration, shedding light on the challenges faced by families dealing with addiction and the strength that can be found in unity and understanding.
