We can make an immense impact on those around us simply by spreading kindness. Random Acts of Kindness Week is observed annually from 14 to 20 February, a celebration of all the ways we can become a positive influence in each other’s lives. As the school year is back in full swing, Anel Annandale, an educational psychologist with a passion for early childhood development, unpacks the psychology of kindness and provides five tips to encourage kindness in our children below.
1. Create a culture of kindness
For young children sharing a sweet is the most basic demonstration of kindness, and this behaviour should be acknowledged and encouraged. “Our products are often central to acts of kindness, and therefore we have made it our brand’s purpose to inspire kindness,” says Monique Spandeel, Manhattan Brand Manager. “So far we have encouraged more than 43 000 learners to be kind through school engagement and toolkits. But kindness starts at home, and we need a collective effort to change behaviour.”
2. Praise character, disciplined behaviour
On the other hand, when disciplining a child, focus on their behaviour rather than their character, eg “That was a hurtful thing to do,” not “you’re being a hurtful brat.” Never accept rude behaviour, even if your child is going through difficult times.
3. Model the behaviour you want to see
Also, remember to thank your children when they are kind to you. Connect with them by holding eye contact when they tell you a story and talk to them about their day at dinner or bedtime – be sure not just to hear but really listen to what they have to say.
4. Kindness = boundaries and discipline
Destructive feelings are a normal part of growing up; being a strong role-model and mentor will help them to navigate and manage big emotions.
5. Encourage random acts of kindness
• Leave an encouraging comment on a post that you like.
“Encouraging kindness in children helps them understand the world from a broader viewpoint. It builds empathy and increases their frame of reference, encouraging them to cooperate with others in reaching shared goals. As for the bigger picture, teaching children to be kind eventually makes the world a better place,” says Annandale.
