Elke jaar het jy dieselfde Nuwejaarsvoornemens, net om teen Valentynsdag tou op te gooi. Hier is vyf wenke om jou kans op sukses te verbeter.<\/p>\n
1. Fokus op die reis, nie die bestemming nie.<\/p>\n
Wanneer jy \u2019n doelwit stel, is dit baie maklik om behep te raak met die \u201cmagiese\u201d einde wanneer jy die doelwit bereik het en jou lewe ewe skielik volmaak gaan wees.<\/p>\n
Ons kan egter nie die omstandighede tydens ons reis na die doelwit beheer nie. Ons moet stadig, maar seker, voetjie vir voetjie die doelwit benader.<\/p>\n
\u201cMense verloor dikwels perspektief van hul doelwit en dink hulle moet dadelik alles verander,\u201d s\u00ea dr. Kelly McGonigal, \u2019n sielkundige van die Stanford-universiteit in Amerika.<\/p>\n
\u201cKlein veranderinge kan egter die weg vir groter veranderinge baan. Vra jou af: Wat is die kleinste dingetjie wat ek vandag kan doen wat my sal help om my doelwit te bereik?\u201d<\/p>\n
As jy byvoorbeeld skaam is en jou doelwit is om meer sosiaal in die nuwe jaar te wees, kan jy begin om \u2019n kollega se uitnodiging vir middagete te aanvaar of om iemand spontaan te groet. Volg dan net die broodkrummels van daar af. Een klein keuse kan \u2019n positiewe kettingreaksie ontlok.<\/p>\n
Jy kan baie klein veranderinge in jou lewe maak wat ooreenstem met jou groot doelwit, meen McGonical.<\/p>\n
As jou daaglikse keuses kollektief bydra tot jou sleuteldoelwit, sal jy dit uiteindelik bereik, hoewel dit glad nie mag voel of lyk soos jou oorspronklike doelwit nie.<\/p>\n
2. Weet dat jy gaan faal (maar hou aan probeer).<\/p>\n
Dit is dikwels onmoontlik om met jou eerste probeerslag te slaag en dit is hier waar talle moed opgee. Ons laat vaar ons planne om fiks te word nadat ons \u2019n paar sessies in die gimnasium misgeloop het of ons hou op om gesond te eet nadat ons onsself oorgegee het aan \u2019n stuk sjokoladekoek of \u2019n hamburger.<\/p>\n
\u201cIn daardie oomblik wanneer ons misluk, is ons eerste instink om tou op te gooi met ons doelwit. Dit is \u2019n ongemaklike plek om te wees, daardie oomblik waar jy in jouself twyfel en onderworpe is aan selfhaat en skuldgevoelens,\u201d s\u00ea McGonical.<\/p>\n
Om tou op te gooi is \u2019n maklike manier om onsself so gou as moontlik van die gevoelens te distansieer. Jou taak is nie om mislukkings te vermy nie, maar om daarvoor te beplan.<\/p>\n
Vra jou af: Wat gaan veroorsaak dat ek misluk? As jy byvoorbeeld op \u2019n dieet is en geneig is om ongesonde maaltye te kies, dra \u2019n pakkie biltong of neute in jou handsak wat die hongerpyne kan stil totdat jy iets gesond kan kies. Sielkundiges noem dit \u2019n \u201cas\/dan\u201d-noodplan of \u201cas dit gebeur, gaan ek dat doen\u201d. Dit is \u2019n geestelike plan vir hoe jy in situasies wat jou kan pootjie, gaan reageer.<\/p>\n
3. Hou jou voornemens vir jouself<\/p>\n
Dit het mos sin om te dink jy sal jou kans op sukses vergroot deur jou voornemens aan almal te verkondig. Dit voel amper asof jy nou aanspreeklik gehou kan word vir jou aksies.<\/p>\n
Dink weer.<\/p>\n
\u201cVerskeie studies wys wanneer jy mense van jou doelwitte vertel, jou kans verminder om hulle deur te voer. Wanneer jy iemand van jou doelwit vertel, skep jy iets wat sielkundiges \u2019n \u2018sosiale werklikheid\u2019 noem,\u201d s\u00ea die TED-motiveringspreker Derek Sivers.<\/p>\n
\u201cJou brein word gefop deur te dink jy het reeds jou doelwit bereik wanneer jy dit hardop aan iemand vertel.\u201d<\/p>\n
En dink daaroor, daar volg \u2019n sekere gevoel van tevredenheid wanneer jy jou planne met iemand deel.<\/p>\n
\u201cDit is as gevolg van die gevoel dat jy nou minder gemotiveerd is om die harde werk in te sit,\u201d s\u00ea hy.<\/p>\n
Wera Mahler, \u2019n Duitse sielkundige, het reeds in 1933 die verskynsel ondersoek en agtergekom as iets deur jou portuurgroep erken of bevestig word, dit deur jou brein as \u2019n realiteit beskou word, selfs al het jy dit nog nie deurgevoer nie.<\/p>\n
Sivers s\u00ea jy moet waak teen die kitsbevrediging wat sosiale erkenning vir jou bring. As jy wel oor jou doelwitte wil praat, let op jou taal.<\/p>\n
Pleks van om te s\u00ea: \u201cEk gaan vanjaar die Twee Oseane-wedloop hardloop\u201d, s\u00ea eerder: \u201cEk wil graag vanjaar die Twee Oseane-wedloop hardloop, maar dan moet ek vyf keer per week oefen om dit \u2019n werklikheid te maak.\u201d<\/p>\n
4. Kry eers jou kop reg<\/p>\n
Ons kan nie ons optrede verander sonder om die manier hoe ons dink, ook te verander nie.<\/p>\n
Die Grieke het gepraat van acrasia<\/i>, \u2019n paradoks waar jy graag iets positiefs wil doen, maar dit nie deurvoer nie as gevolg van \u2019n swak gemoed.<\/p>\n
Ons misluk dikwels omdat die voordele van ons positiewe aksies vertraag is en ons ongeduldig is.<\/p>\n
Jy wil oefen, maar kan nie dadelik die goeie resultate daarvan sien nie, dus vertel jy jouself jy sal dit later doen. Akrasie is die rede waarom ons uitstel en dit is die rede waarom ons anders moet dink oor hoe ons ons doelwitte kan bereik.<\/p>\n
Neurolo\u00eb het reeds deur die gebruik van breinskanderings bepaal dat ons gewoontes gevorm word deur denkpatrone wat neurologiese paadjies en herinneringe in ons brein vorm. Dit word die basis van jou gedragspatrone wanneer jy met \u2019n keuse gekonfronteer word.<\/p>\n
As jy dus \u2019n positiewe verandering, soos \u2019n suksesvolle oefenroetine, in jou lewe wil bring of \u2019n slegte gewoonte wil laat vaar, verander die manier hoe jy daarna kyk. Moenie dit as \u2019n opoffering of las beskou nie, sien dit as \u2019n geleentheid om jou gesondheid te verbeter. Dit is \u2019n voorreg wat baie van ons dikwels as vanselfsprekend ervaar.<\/p>\n
5. Stel realistiese doelwitte<\/p>\n
Pinterest en selfhelpboeke is vol pseudo-sielkundige gesegdes soos \u201cMik vir die maan en jy sal tussen die sterre beland\u201d, maar di\u00e9 tipe raad doen eintlik meer kwaad as goed. Wanneer ons onrealistiese doelwitte vir ons stel, is dit \u2019n resep vir mislukking. Dit maak dit ook vir jou moeiliker om jou toekomstige doelwitte en aspirasies te bereik.<\/p>\n
Die manier hoe ons ons eie realiteit ervaar, is \u2019n produk van ons gesamentlike ervarings. As jy dus die hele tyd aanhou om te misluk en nie \u2019n spesifieke doelwit kan bereik nie, gaan jy later glo jy is \u2019n mislukking. Die illusie is die gesamentlike produk van onrealistiese doelwitte wat nooit bereik is nie.<\/p>\n
Beteken dit dat jy nie groot kan droom nie? Glad nie. Dit beteken net dat jy daardie doelwit moet benader soos jy \u2019n olifant sou eet: happie vir happie.<\/p>\n
As jy die Comrades wil hardloop, moenie sommer al die eerste dag 20 km probeer hardloop nie. Begin klein en werk elke week \u2019n klein bietjie harder.<\/p>\n
.<\/span> Bron: www.ted.com, www.elitedaily. com<\/i><\/p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Elke jaar het jy dieselfde Nuwejaarsvoornemens, net om teen Valentynsdag tou op te gooi. 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