Sy het grootgeword en geglo sy is \u2019n prinses. Sy het geglo dat sy eendag haar ridder op \u2019n wit perd sou ontmoet en dat sy in \u2019n weelderige kasteel langs die see sou woon. Maar haar drome om ooit liefde te vind, het aan skerwe gehang, want die koning het haar seergemaak en haar \u201cprins\u201d het net aangehou waar die koning opgehou het, maar vandag kan sy getuig oor ware liefde.<\/p>\n
Marie Steyn (37), \u2019n inwoner van Worcester wat in die Robertson-gebied werk, is in Krugersdorp in die Gauteng-provinsie gebore. Daar het Steyn ook haar grootwordjare deurgebring in \u2019n huis vol halfboeties en -sussies. Dit is ook in hierdie huis waar haar stiefpa \u2019n deel van haar menswees aangetas en haar jeugdigheid gesteel het.<\/p>\n
\u201cHy was \u2019n myner en vreeslik lief vir sy dop. My ma het \u2019n halfdagpos as ontvangsdame gehad en was geskeur tussen haar werk en om na my en my vier sibbe om te sien. My stiefpa is geken vir sy humeur en was gereeld in vuisgevegte betrokke. Ek het hom party dae meer gevrees as die vlie\u00ebplak waarmee ons \u2019n pak slae sou kry.\u201d<\/p>\n
Steyn is egter van 11-jarige ouderdom gereeld ook deur haar stiefpa verkrag en gemolesteer.<\/p>\n
\u201cHy het my laat glo dat dit is hoe dit werk en dit is wat gebeur as iemand lief is vir jou, maar dat dit \u2019n geheim moes bly. Dit het vir maande aan en af gebeur. Ek was te dom om te weet dat ek iemand moes vertel,\u201d s\u00ea Steyn aan Standard<\/i>.<\/p>\n\u2018 \u2019n bedekte se\u00ebn\u2019<\/h1>\n
Haar ma is egter dood drie dae voor haar twaalfde verjaarsdag en sy moes weens omstandighede by haar tannie in Bloemfontein gaan woon.<\/p>\n
\u201cDit klink baie lelik, maar dit was \u2019n bedekte se\u00ebn. Ek is uit daardie monster se kloue uit en kon ontsnap, maar dit is nie waar die trauma be\u00ebindig is nie.\u201d<\/p>\n
Steyn het haar ho\u00ebrskoolloopbaan in Bloemfontein voltooi en daar by \u2019n kollege ingeskryf vir \u2019n kursus in naels en skoonheid. Langsaan hierdie kollege was \u2019n werkswinkel met \u2019n jong knaap wat haar oog gevang het.<\/p>\n
\u201cHy was \u2019n motorwerktuigkundige en het my aan die begin op sy hande gedra. Ek was regtig lief vir hom en het gedink dit is wat ek in \u2019n man soek. Hy was ook ongelukkig lief vir alkohol en sy ware kleure het na vore gekom. Ons het een aand gebraai en hy het vieslike goed vir my ges\u00ea. Hy het egter ges\u00ea hy grap en ek het vir hom ges\u00ea ek dink hy is onvanpas en stel my in die verleentheid. Hy het my deur die gesig geklap en my gevloek. Ek het gaan slaap en hom die volgende dag vergewe.\u201d<\/p>\n
Steyn vertel dat hy die volgende dag groot om verskoning gevra het en dat sy hom nog \u2019n kans gegee het. <\/p>\n
\u201cHy het belowe hy sal ophou drink en hy het. Maande lank het ons aan ons verhouding gewerk, maar een Saterdagmiddag het sy kop net uitgehaak. Hy het my beskuldig dat ek flankeer met sy beste vriend en my allerhande name genoem. Hy het my gestamp, my geskop en my met \u2019n stapel boeke gegooi.<\/p>\n
\u201cEk het bly l\u00ea en gebid en toe ek weer sien was hy genadiglik uit die kamer. Ek het gedink ek gaan doodgaan.\u201d <\/p>\n
Sy het haar tasse gepak en is terug na haar tannie toe. Sy het haar Opel Corsa gelaai en nooit weer teruggekyk nie.<\/p>\n
\u201cWat weet \u2019n mens van liefde op die ouderdom van 19 en 20? Wat weet jy van liefde as mans jou nog net seergemaak het? Ek het \u2019n paar maande in Bloem aangebly en toe \u2019n geleentheid as \u2019n naeltegnikus en ontvangsdame in Stellenbosch gekry.<\/p>\n
\u201cEk het weer my Corsa gepak met die min goed wat ek besit en by \u2019n skoolvriendin vir tyd en wyl gaan bly,\u201d vertel sy.<\/p>\n
Hier het sy jare lank gefokus gebly om aan \u2019n loopbaan te bou en besluit dat sy afstand wil doen van mans en verhoudings. In 2017 het dit egter verander.<\/p>\n
\u201cEk kon mans net nie vertrou nie. Ek het mansvriende gemaak in Stellenbosch en kon deur dit weer ietwat \u2019n ander idee en prentjie in my kop vorm. Ek het ook in 2013 \u2019n sielkundige begin besoek en deur alles probeer werk.<\/p>\n
\u201cIn Mei van 2017 het ek \u2019n man ontmoet en dit was die eerste keer sedert ek 19 was dat ek daardie opgewondenheid in my gevoel het. Vir maande het hy my gesmeek om iets saam te gaan eet en uiteindelik in September is ek saam met hom en een van my vriendinne na \u2019n koffiekroeg toe. In Februarie 2018 was ons amptelik \u2019n paartjie.\u201d<\/p>\n
Willem Steyn (44), haar k\u00earel in daardie stadium, het op \u2019n plaas net buite Stellenbosch gewerk. Toe hy egter in Augustus 2018 \u2019n geleentheid buite Worcester op \u2019n plaas kry as voorman, wou hy nie die pad sonder haar aanpak nie.<\/p>\n
\u201cHy het my gevra om te trou en ek het ingestem. Ek is tot vandag toe nie spyt nie. Dit het my lank gevat om hom te vertrou en ek het vir maande gewag vir die dag wanneer hy my gaan teleurstel, maar hy verbaas my nog elke dag.\u201d<\/p>\n
Hulle is vroeg in 2019 getroud en Steyn het ook toe \u2019n werk as ontvangsdame op \u2019n bekende wynlandgoed buite Robertson gekry. <\/p>\n
\u201cAlles het in plek geval en hy het my gewys hoe om mans weer te vertrou. Dit is jammer dat daar vrouens in die land is wat doodgaan aan die hand van \u2019n man vir wie hulle lief is of was. Almal verdien \u2019n Willem. <\/p>\n
\u201cVir iemand soos ek wat in sprokies geglo het toe ek jonk was en vir wie daardie droom onbereikbaar gevoel het, kan ek getuig dat jy wel mans kan vertrou,\u201d s\u00ea sy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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