\u201cEk het gevoel soos \u2019n mislukking.\u201d D\u00eds die diep woorde van \u2019n Weskus- moeder wie se kind jare lank geboelie is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cEk werk self elke dag met kinders en ouers, hoe kon ek nie die tekens raaksien nie?\u201d het deur haar kop gemaal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Die ma, wat anoniem wil bly, het met Weslander<\/span> gedeel hoe afknouery haar 14-jarige seun ses jaar lank geraak het. Soos genoem het sy nie geweet dat haar seun hierdie pyn en seer alleen deurmaak nie. Sy is eers daarvan bewus gemaak nadat \u2019n ander leerder haar in kennis gestel het van hoe leerders hom daagliks by die skool afknou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cAangesien hy \u2019n introvert is, het ons altyd gedink hy is maar net stil. Maar toe ek sit, het ek besef dat hy eintlik al hoe stiller geword het en al hoe meer in sy dop gekruip het,\u201d vertel sy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Haar seun se selfvertroue en persoonlikheid was so gebrekkig dat hy selfs in sy dagboek geskryf het oor al die lelike wense en name wat die kinders hom genoem het en hoe hy gedink het dit sou beter wees as hy nie bestaan nie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In haar seer en die feit dat haar seun ook deur seer gaan, het die ma soos enige ouer besluit om \u2019n gesprek met die ouers van die kinders te h\u00ea wat hom afknou. \u201cDaar is ges\u00ea hulle is net kinders en ek moet dit laat gaan. Teleurgesteld in die reaksie het haar gedagtes amper outomaties die ouers pyn toegewens en dat die kinders ook kan ervaar wat haar kind ervaar. \u201cEk moes my self stop en besef hier is ek self besig om \u2019n boelie te word.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sy voeg by dat ouers geneig is om te besig te raak en s\u00f3 vasgevang is in die daaglikse storms van die lewe dat hulle vergeet om aandag aan hul kinders te gee. \u201cOndersteun jou kind, knyp net \u2019n paar minute af, vra jou kind hoe sy of haar dag was, vra oor sy maatjies en stel belang.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Met die kennis van wat haar kind deurgemaak het, kon sy uiteindelik vir hom die nodige hulp kry deur middel van ondersteunings\u00adgroepe met ander kinders wat dieselfde deurgemaak het. \u201cDit is \u2019n onder\u00adsteu\u00adnings\u00ad\u00adgroep wat hom laat voel het dat hy nie alleen is nie en dat alles oukei gaan wees.\u201d Sy bieg oor die vrees dat haar ander kinders ook slagoffers van afknouery kan word, maar glo hulle weet van die belangrikheid van kommunikasie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cGeen ouer weet hoe om dit te hanteer nie en weet nie wat volgende gaan gebeur nie. 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