Die strewe na perfek wees, beter wees, in wees, normaal wees en gesien wees is seker nou maar in die meeste van ons se DNS verweef. Gaan kyk maar nog \u2019n keer so deur ons huidige samelewingsprentjie. Daar is die heeltyd \u2019n gejaag na die bogenoemde wees in die een of ander vorm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek kan verstaan dat dit \u2019n doodnatuurlike verskynsel blyk te wees, want ons is nou maar een\u00admaal mens en soms, net soms, doen daardie bietjie erken\u00adning, daai bietjie in die kollig wees, ons menslike ego die w\u00eareld se goed! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Waar ek egter die streep trek, is met daardie oormatige beheptheid met die \u201cwees\u201d-goed. Dis hier waar ek my hoekomvrae begin vra. Dis ook hier waar ek my stop-knoppie druk en ook die w\u00e1t-vrae begin vra. Wat is ons definisie van perfek wees, normaal wees en beter wees? Is dit daardie prentjiemooi beeld van die ou of meisie in die gim of by \u2019n skoonheidskompetisie? Die perfekte lyf, mooi gesig en vel, die perfekte spierwit tande en gladde hare wat gereed is vir \u2019n sjampoe- advertensie?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Voeg daarby die nuutste ryding, \u2019n huis in \u2019n spogbuurt en \u2019n werk waarvan die R350-mense wat maandeliks in \u2019n ry staan, net kan droom. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek moet beklemtoon dat daar niks mee fout is om ambisieus te wees nie. Jy het gaan studeer vir daai werk waarin jy tans is en jy werk ekstra hard vir daai moontlike bevordering. Jy werk hard aan jouself om goed te voel oor jouself. En daarmee is daar absoluut geen fout nie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dis egter die deel waar ons alles aanpak om ander \u2019n punt te probeer wys wat ek nie altyd so lekker verstaan nie. En as die ander mense nie so lekker in daai perfekte prentjie van jou inpas nie, dan word op hulle neergesien \u2013 soms baie subtiel, maar daai \u201chaai foeitog\u201d gee jou hele spel weg. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dis \u2019n bietjie van \u2019n verligting om op te merk dat ons Suid- Afrikaanse samelewing darem ook al \u2019n entjie met hierdie wees-tendens gestap het. Dit wil vir my voorkom asof daar \u2019n meer verdraagsame houding is teenoor veral mense wat anders lyk of doen. Hoe dan anders, want ons leef in \u2019n multi-kulturele samelewing waar elkeen sy plekkie in die re\u00ebnboognasie van ons het. Daar is egter nog baie ruimte vir verbetering, want soveel kere word die mense wat anders is, met verwysing na geslag, gewig, status in die samelewing, gestremdhede, ensovoorts, die middelpunt van bespreking in ons eie private groepies. Is andersheid en anders wees nie juis van die dinge wat in ons mooi land gevier moet word nie? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek het so \u2019n diepe waardering en trots vir al ons mede-Suid- Afrikaners wat aan die Paralimpiese Spele deelgeneem het. Wat \u2019n viering van skaamteloos anders wees! Ons nuut gekroonde Mej. Suid Afrika is nog \u2019n mylpaal wat ons saam vier . . . die eerste dowe skoonheidskoningin in die geskiedenis van die kompetisie \u2013 wat \u2019n prestasie! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Daar is soveel ander voorbeelde wat ek uit ons Suid-Afrikaanse konteks kan noem, maar die punt is \u2013 ek hoop dit sal almal nog meer inspireer om ons andersheid in verskeidenheid te vier. My stille gebed daarmee saam is dat daardie wees-goeters in ons lewe meer gebalanseerd sal wees. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Want . . . as ons almal stil gaan word, wil ek glo ons sal gou besef dat ons almal eiesoortige gebreke het; dat ons almal net mens is; dat ons almal eintlik maar net daarna strewe om \u2019n doelgedrewe lewe te lei, gelukkig te wees in dit wat ons doen en die liefde en vreugde te smaak van hulle wat vir ons spesiaal is. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dis daai na-binne-kyk-oefening wat ons tot die besef laat kom dat daar absoluut niks fout is met anders wees nie. Anders lyk, anders wees en anders doen maak die deure vir kreatief wees oop. Dit herinner ons daaraan dat ons elkeen uniek is en genoegsa\u00adme ruimte moet laat vir elkeen om hom of haar spontaan en kreatief uit te leef. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek het so \u2019n paar weke gelede oudergewoonte my lang ent langs die see gaan stap. Groot was my verbasing om te sien hoe \u2019n drie-poothond lewenslustig op die strand baljaar. Ek het geen gebrek raakgesien nie . . . net \u2019n brak vol lewenslus. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nog \u2019n entjie verder sien ek \u2019n sigbaar oorgewig jongman met sy instrukteur langsaan. Hierdie jong\u00adman werk hard daaraan om sy balans in die lewe te vind. Hy werk daaraan om sy gesondheid weer op dreef te kry. Ek sien nie die oorgewig raak nie. Ek sien \u2019n jongman raak wat genoeg omgee vir homself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
My laaste raaksien-oomblik was twee haweloses. Dis vroegoggend. Al twee staan met \u2019n tandeborsel in die mond om die eerste belangrike takie vir die dag te verrig. Ek sien nie \u2019n hawelose raak nie. Ek sien my medemens raak wat die belangrikheid van persoonlike higi\u00ebne besef. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mag ons, voordat ons die wees- goeters wil doen, net eers mens wees . . . gestroop van enige goeters of bagasie. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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