\u201cJy is nie \u2019n man nie wanneer jy \u2019n vrou of \u2019n kind verkrag. Jy is nie \u2019n man nie as jy \u2019n vrou of \u2019n kind trap of skop. Jy is nie \u2019n man nie as jy eise aan jou vrou stel voor sy geld vir die huishouding kry nie. Jy is nie \u2019n man nie as jy jou woonplek \u2019n plek van onveiligheid vir jou mense maak. Jy is nie \u2019n man nie as jy jou loon of salaris opdrink.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Die bogenoemde stellings wat Elma Saalman maak, het sy nie uit \u2019n boek of op internet gekry nie, maar wat sy uit die lewe self geleer. Elma is die stigter van Monique Haven, \u2019n hulpsentrum vir vernielde en verkragte vroue in Despatch se Rerservoir Hills. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Di\u00e9 sentrum is na die meisie Monique (4) van Reservoir Hills vernoem wat 20 jaar gelede wreed verkrag en vermoor is. Tot vandag toe is niemand vir haar moord aangekeer nie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHierdie grusame daad was s\u00f3 erg dat ons vroue van die gebied elke jaar haar moord-dag met \u2019n protesoptog herdenk het. Maar naderhand het ons besef ons moet ophou, want die protesoptogte ruk elke keer opnuut die ma se seer oor haar kind oop,\u201d verduidelik Elma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Haar blik dwaal oor die huise in die omgewing, vou haar hande voor haar maag, en s\u00ea dan: \u201cMaar ek kon nie terugstaan en niks verder doen nie. Ek het besluit s\u00f3 iets mag nooit weer gebeur nie.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weens Elma se deurlopende bystand aan Monique se ma ten opsigte van die regsprosesse wat na \u2019n verkragting gevolg moet word, het sy besluit om die nie-regeringsorganisasie Monique Haven te stig om voorgesette bystand aan verkragte vrouens en kinders te bly gee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Monique Haven is sedert 2017 in \u2019n huisie aan die bopunt van Versoeningstraat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cNou help ons nie net vroue en kinders wat verkrag is nie, maar ook hulle wat deurloop onder geslagsgeweld, huishoudelike geweld en dwelmmisbruik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cOns help slagoffers om met die regte mense, wat voortgesette hulp kan bied, in kontak te kom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cOmdat ons sukkel met befondsing, kan ons nie mense inneem nie. Maar gelukkig werk ons baie goed saam met die polisie en die maatskaplike werkers, ons verwys die mense soontoe, of na veilige hawens op Uitenhage,\u201d s\u00ea Elma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tog, al is die samewerking tussen Monique Haven en die nabygele\u00eb polisie en maatskaplike werkers so uitstekend, is daar \u2018n paar dinge wat krap. Elma verduidelik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cDaar is nie altyd genoeg voertuie nie vir die polisiebeamptes of die maatskaplike werkers om uit te kom hierheen wanneer daar \u2018n saak is. Ek weet nie hoe dink die regering hoe kan jy gesonde wetstoepassing handhaaf as daar nie genoeg voertuie en wetstoepassingbeamptes is nie?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
En vir die Suid-Afrikaanse man het Elma in Augustus, vrouemaand, die volgende boodskap:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWord \u2019n man. Wees \u2019n beskerming vir jou vrou, vir jou kinders \u00e9n vir die kind en die vrou in die straat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cOns soek manne om na op te sien. Manne wat verkrag is lafaards en ons sal like<\/span> om te sien dat manne ook opstaan teen hierdie lafaards,\u201d s\u00ea Elma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cJy is nie \u2019n man nie wanneer jy \u2019n vrou of \u2019n kind verkrag. Jy is nie \u2019n man nie as jy \u2019n vrou of \u2019n kind trap of skop. Jy is nie \u2019n man nie as jy eise aan jou vrou stel voor sy geld vir die huishouding kry nie. . 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