{"id":45235,"date":"2024-08-08T07:00:53","date_gmt":"2024-08-08T05:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/novanews.co.za\/peoplespost\/the-harsh-reality-of-domestic-violence-womans-journey-from-abuse-to-recovery-20240806\/"},"modified":"2025-03-19T22:48:58","modified_gmt":"2025-03-19T20:48:58","slug":"the-harsh-reality-of-domestic-violence-womans-journey-from-abuse-to-recovery-20240806","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/novanews.co.za\/peoplespost\/the-harsh-reality-of-domestic-violence-womans-journey-from-abuse-to-recovery-20240806\/","title":{"rendered":"The harsh reality of domestic violence: Woman\u2019s journey from abuse to recovery"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Melissa, a 37-year-old from Heideveld, shares her experience of surviving domestic violence.. <\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Despite a decrease in intimate femicide rates since 1999, many women like Melissa face ongoing abuse, including verbal, financial, and physical. <\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Melissa\u2019s story underscores the challenges of leaving an abusive relationship, including financial dependency and lack of support.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI am a survivor of domestic violence\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For Melissa, a 37-year-old woman from Heideveld, living to tell her story is by grace. For thousands of other women across the country, they are not that fortunate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>According to the Department of Justice and Constitutional Development several forms of femicide have been identified across the world, with intimate partner violence (domestic violence between intimate partners) identified as intimate femicide.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-story-not-unique\">Story not unique<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>According to the department, in a study conducted in South Africa in 2009, the rate of intimate femicide has seen a decrease with 5,6 per 100\u2009000 women aged 14 years or older, while in 1999 the rate of 8,8 per 100\u2009000 women aged 14 years and above was registered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While much emphasis has been placed on combatting gender-based violence in the country for a number of years, Melissa\u2019s story is not unique.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI met a nice man and we got married in 2007 when I was 20. Things were tough for us financially and we lived in a wendy house with his parents. This is where things started,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Working as a shop assistant at the time, having her first child meant she never returned to work, which was a mutual decision by the couple, she says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cLooking back now, leaving my job was the worst decision I ever made. But there is this dream that is sold to us. We must be mothers. I was so young when I had my first baby, so we had to get a lot of help from my mother-in-law,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Not being fully independent and relying on his parents for both financial and emotional support started a cycle of abuse beyond her marriage, says Melissa.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cFor me it started with constant verbal fights. We would argue about everything. We would argue about money. He would swear at me constantly and talk about how bad I looked. How I did not meet what he was used to,\u201d she says. \u201cAs children, we are not taught about such a thing as verbal abuse. We grow up with swearing. It is normal. I did not know this was abuse.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-escalating-problem\">Escalating problem<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Verbal abuse turned to financial abuse and eventually physical abuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIt started with one time, then more often. I thank social media, because this is where I learnt about gaslighting,\u201d she says. \u201cWhen you are in it, you don\u2019t see it as clearly.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Melissa says embarrassment was one of the main reasons she stayed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div contenteditable=\"false\" data-embed24=\"Blockquote\" data-pos=\"middle\" id=\"embed_8d736007\">\n<div class=\"text\">\u201cI did not know where to turn to or who to tell. I was completely financially dependent on him for myself and my children. 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