\u201cKan antie my wys hoe om \u2019n tie <\/i>te strik \u2019seblief?\u201d S\u00f3 vra \u2019n elfjarige seun my onlangs. Toe hy met sy das voor my staan en wag dat ek hom moet help, het daar soos male sonder tal vantevore, duisende vrae in my hart kom l\u00ea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hoekom besef ouers nie hul verantwoordelikheid teenoor hul kinders nie? Hoe kan ouers met hul lewe aangaan \u2013 soms met hul kinders in dieselfde huis \u2013 maar hulle as ouers is eenvoudig net afwesig? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hulle is net te besig met wat ook al hulle belangriker ag as hul kinders wat God aan hulle toevertrou het. Waar\u2019s die pappas wat hul seuns moet leer om \u2019n das te knoop? Hoe sal sy seun sien hoe hy as voorbeeld \u2019n vrou hanteer en vir haar omgee sodat hulle eendag sal weet hoe om op te tree? Hoe kan \u2019n ma haar kind vergeet? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dit bly hartverskeurend \u2013 en kommerwekkend \u2013 om te sien en te ervaar hoe baie ouers glad nie omgee oor hul kinders nie, solank hulle nice times <\/i>kan h\u00ea. En dan kom net nog \u2019n kleintjie, en nog een . . .<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek luister baie na kinders se taalgebruik en hoe hulle die vieslikste woorde vir mekaar s\u00ea en mekaar afkraak, en ek besef dis waaraan hulle gewoond is. Vir hulle is dit normaal. Hoe het ons as volwassenes nie ons kinders gefaal nie? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dalk nie met jou eie kroos nie, maar staan ons nog stil by \u2019n kind wat ons sien of hoor besig is om die pad byster te raak? Praat ons met so \u2019n kind, al is dit nie ons eie nie? Is j\u00f3\u00fa?? kind nog m\u00fd kind? Kyk ons nog uit vir mekaar of ander se kinders? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek besef maar alte goed tye is nie meer dieselfde nie, maar kan ons regtig ons o\u00eb en ore toemaak? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kan ons? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek weet \u201ckinners was nog kinners toe ons nog kinners was\u201d en \u2019n mens moet vandag ekstra versigtig wees wat jy aan iemand anders se kind of kinders s\u00ea en doen \u2013 al is dit net om te help \u2013 maar kan ons dit nie omkeer nie? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kan elkeen van ons nie ten minste \u00e9\u00e9n kind identifiseer wat jy besluit om aan die hand te vat nie? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2019n Vriend van my het ges\u00ea hy wil so graag \u2019n kind help, al is dit dan nou net om skryfbehoeftes of \u2019n paar skoolskoene of so iets te koop. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2019n Ander vriend het al oor die jare sy huis voor en tydens eksamentyd aan tientalle kinders beskikbaar gestel sodat leerders en studente voor en tydens eksamens kan studeer. Van hulle is vandag in verskillende professionele beroepe, omdat iemand hul behoeftes gesien en iets daaraan gedoen het. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dalk het ek en jy nie baie om te bied nie. Sommige het dalk nie geld of tyd nie, maar sommige kinders het dalk slegs \u2019n oor nodig, want niemand luister na hulle by die huis nie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jy kan dalk nie \u2019n kind finansieel ondersteun nie, maar jy het dalk kontakte wat kan help. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Meisies het nodig dat iemand vir hulle s\u00ea \u2019n mens loop nie met nagklere in die straat nie. So ook nie met \u2018n swirl-<\/i>kous of rollers nie. Ook dat jy nie moet toelaat dat jou boyfriend <\/i>daai eerste hou gee nie, al dink jy nou dit is net speel-speel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dis nodig dat seuns geleer word wanneer \u2019n meisie \u201cnee\u201d s\u00ea, moet dit gerespekteer word. Kinders het nodig dat hulle herinner word dat dit niks kos om te groet nie (dalk \u2019n hele klomp grootmense ook!) en ook om dankie en asseblief te s\u00ea en ouer mense te respekteer. Dit is basiese dinge wat hulle dalk nie by die huis leer nie \u2013 of iets eenvoudigs soos om \u2019n kind te leer om \u2019n das te knoop. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kan jy dink aan iets wat jy vir \u2019n kind kan doen of beteken? Dit is my hartewens dat ons weer begin uitkyk vir ander se kinders. Dalk gaan hulle kwaad word as dit \u2019n geval is waar hulle berispe word, maar as ons dit met liefde doen, sal dit goed ontvang word en ons kan verseker wees al dink ons dit help nie nou nie, is die saadjie ten minste gesaai. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dalk is daar een kind wat net wag dat jy sy of haar mentor kan wees \u2013 leiding kan gee of sommer net daar kan wees. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Waar pappas afwesig is, verander \u2019n kind se omstandighede en lewensuitkyk wanneer iemand \u2019n pa-rol vertolk. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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