Na aanleiding van \u2019n SMS in verlede week se Paarl Post <\/i>wil ek graag die volgende noem:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ek ken nie die voorval waarvan die skrywer praat nie, maar wat ek wel meer en meer sien, is dat ouers hulle dikwels blind staar teen hul kinders se foute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ouers dink verskonings uit hoekom hul kinders se onbeskofte gedrag aanvaarbaar is. As kind het ons altyd in die pad tennis gespeel en dikwels die bal in een van die bure se erf ingeslaan. Ons het dan later maar net \u2019n ander bal gesoek om mee te speel of ons wedstryd het net daar ge\u00ebindig, want sou ons vir ons ouers elke keer moes s\u00ea wanneer ons \u2019n bal in die bure se erf geslaan het, het ons slae gekry. Ek het dalk destyds gedink dit is onregverdig, maar vandag as \u2019n volwassene besef ek wat \u2019n steurnis dit moes wees as kinders elke keer sou kom klop om hul tennisbal of iets te vra. Wat sou gebeur het as ons \u2019n ruit uitslaan? Wie sou die kostes daarvan dra? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kinders hou nie daarvan om gestraf te word wanneer hulle verkeerd doen nie, maar jy doen jou kind in die langtermyn meer skade as goed. My oorlede ouma het altyd ges\u00ea jy moenie jou kind \u201cvoorpraat\u201d nie. \u2019n Tydjie terug sien ek \u2019n inskrywing op Facebook van \u2019n ma wat haar kind, wat deur die polisie in verband met \u2019n misdaad gesoek is, weggesteek en elke keer vir die polisie gejok het wanneer hulle by haar deur op soek na hom kom klop het.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ons doen ons kinders meer skade as goed wanneer ons hulle nie reghelp wanneer hulle verkeerd gedoen het nie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Wanneer jou kind by die huis kom kla dat die juffrou volgens hom te streng is of dat sy met hulle raas, hoe reageer jy? Wys jy vir jou kind dat jy respek vir die juffrou se gesag het sodat hy dit ook moet h\u00ea, of begin jy al die juffrou uitskel sonder dat jy \u2019n dag in haar skoene gestaan het? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kinders kla altyd as hulle nie kan doen wat hulle wil nie, maar ons as ouers moet onsself die volgende vra: Watse soort grootmense maak ons groot? Watse soort drome het ons vir ons kinders? Of verkies sommige maar net om nie meer hul ouerskap ernstig op te neem nie? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jy as ouer be\u00efnvloed jou kind se denkwyse. Wees \u2019n verantwoordelike ouer, die cool<\/span>-ouer-fase verdwyn en dan soek jou kind na die ouer wat hy vertrou, wat standaarde het, op wie hulle ook \u2013 wanneer hulle groot is \u2013 trots kan wees.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Na aanleiding van \u2019n SMS in verlede week se Paarl Post wil ek graag die volgende 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