Was jy al ooit in \u2019n geselskap waar jy agterna gewens het dat jy maar liefs die ander pad geloop het? Ek praat van daai geselskappe waar alle ander mense behalwe jyself die middelpunt van bespreking is. Daai lostong-geselskappe, of platweg gestel \u2013 die skinder-mafia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dis eintlik nogal bietjie snaaks as ek nou so daaraan dink, want dis ongelooflik hoe daar in detail oor die mens of mense geklets kan word. Die meerderheid van die sodanige inligting is gebaseer op hoors\u00ea. Voor dit nou klink asof ek van my troontjie na die onderwerp kyk, wil ek jou darem net gerusstel \u2013 ek was al in my leeftyd in \u2019n paar sulke scenario\u2019s. Ook maar goed so, want dit het my uitkyk op die lewe drasties be\u00efnvloed. In so \u2019n mate dat ek kies om nie deel van sodanige geselskappe te wees nie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Maak dit van jou die mens wat hom beter as ander wil hou of met sy kop in die lug leef en nie tred hou met die werklikheid om ons nie? Nee, glad nie. Dis \u2019n geval van jou bronne reg kies vir die inligting wat jy benodig. En natuurlik om seker te maak dat daardie inligting deur genoegsame feite gestaaf kan word, want die teendeel daarvan is en bly net \u2019n ou skinderstorie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Wat my die meeste pla oor die spesifieke onderwerp, is dat ons manlike spesie onsself so skuldig maak aan hierdie slegte ou gewoonte. En daarvoor gril ek my morsdood. Nee, sies man, die hele skinderbesigheid pas nou maar eenmaal net nie by jou nie. En die feit is dat party van ons manne soms die grootste deel van hul dag aan hierdie aktiwiteit afstaan, maar terselfdertyd maar sku is om die pot aan die kook te hou by die huis. Moenie \u2019n fout maak nie, ek is intens bewus daarvan dat \u2019n skinderstorie soms darem die saai kant van die lewe so \u2019n bietjie kan optower en partykeer kan sorg vir \u2019n heerlike uitbundige lag hier en daar. Dis egter die kere dat daardie ou gewoonte toksies begin raak dat jy met \u2019n probleem sit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gaan loer maar so \u2019n bietjie in ons gemeenskappe na die nagevolge van skinderstories. Families en gesinne is vir weke, maande en selfs jare vir mekaar kwaad oor \u2019n skinderstorie. Om nie eens te praat van hoe hierdie prentjie in kerke daar uitsien nie. Die een plek waar \u2019n mens darem hoop jy die vuurtonge van die w\u00eareld gespaar sal wees. Dis somtyds juis die rede waarom mense uiteindelik wegbreek van die kerk en baie kere selfs hul geloof opgee, want die jongste skinderstorie het hul menswees tot in sy fondasies verwoes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Op \u2019n ligter noot het ek soms die gewoonte gehad om by \u2019n paar strategiese mense op strategiese punte uit te kom as ek enigsins die behoefte het om bietjie te hoor waar so en so nog laas gesien is en wat gebeur het sedert ons nog laas kontak gehad het. En daai inligting vat ek maar met \u2019n knypie sout, want van beter weet ek wel \u2013 en dis om eerstehands met \u2019n person kontak te maak en daardie einste inligting te bekom. Ek moet darem eerlik byvoeg dat dit deesdae glad nie meer \u2019n behoefte by my is om daai inligting tweedehands te ontvang nie. Ek wag maar eerder my beurt af vir \u2019n lekker kuiertjie saam met die persoon wat ek dalk vir jare nie met \u2019n oog gesien het nie. Jy sien, dieselfde mense wat ons baie kere beskinder, doen maklik dieselfde van en oor ons, en so word dit net een bose kringloop. Ag nee wat, ons land het oorgenoeg skindermateriaal op nasionale vlak dat jy nog jou broer en suster in die gemeenskap moet sit en beskinder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of \u2019n mens die ou nare gewoonte by my mense sal kan stop, betwyfel ek sterk, want dis \u2019n gewoonte so oud soos die liewe Heer se genade.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Wat my egter dit laat waag om myself daaroor uit te spreek, het te doen met die nagevolge wat ek eerstehands aanskou het \u2013 veral in die werksplek. Genugtig weet, dit word by party werksplekke letterlik die kultuur van daardie organisasie of instansie. Mense begin floreer op hoors\u00ea of skinder en breek so die etos van die organisasie stukkie vir stukkie af.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Daai skinderstories vergiftig verhoudinge onder kollegas en voor jy jou kom kry, word al die goeie en mooi bedoelings vir watter eerbare saak ook al by die voordeur uitgesmyt en ploeter mense voort met skynbare opregtheid vir die saak en aard van hul werk. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kan jy jou indink wat dit aan die produktiwiteit van \u2019n span kan doen? Beslis nie die moeite werd as jy my vra nie. Die alternatief, wil ek my verstout om te s\u00ea, is eenvoudig. Waak oor daai mond van jou. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hou op om jou te bemoei met ander mense se sake. Doen \u2019n bietjie introspeksie en jy sal agterkom dat ek en jy oorgenoeg van ons eie sake het wat ons dringende aandag benodig. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nee man, laat staan jou fietna-geite!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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