BINNE die raamwerk van ons menslike lewenssiklus stort ons basies drie soorte trane. Di\u00e9 van hartseer, blydskap en so af en toe ook di\u00e9 van selfverwyt. Hiervan staan hartseertrane ongetwyfeld heel voor in die ry. Want in ons lewens kry ons almal \u2019n ruim kwota van dinge wat ons gemoed omkrap en ons traankliere tot oorkookens toe aktiveer. Die heengaan van \u2019n geliefde, \u2019n verbrokkelde liefdesverhouding, die trauma van \u2019n familielid of kind wat in die euwel van dwelms verval het. Die lys is legio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In teenstelling daarmee loop trane van selfverwyt dikwels hand aan hand met die woordjie \u201cas.\u201d As ek maar na my ma geluister het. As ek maar nie in daardie verdomde bus of taxi geklim het nie. Dinge waaroor ons dikwels agterna spyt voel. Maar onge-lukkig laat die noodlot hom nie voorskryf nie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my lewe het ek hierdie trane al tot \u2019n punt van versadiging gehuil. Di\u00e9 van blydskap natuurlik ook. Maar in die laaste tyd het ek ook met ander tipe trane kennis gemaak. Trane van aanvaarding en berusting. En dit danksy twee dramatiese gebeurtenisse wat onlangs op my lewenspad gekom het. Die tragiese heengaan van twee tieners wat die rowe van my eie twee seun-tjies se verlies bykans twintig jaar gelede weer afgekrap het. In albei gevalle het ek die bedroefde families se storie gaan dek maar dit voorafgegaan met \u2019nberadingses-sie uit die doldrums van my eie hartseer en verdriet. Die waardering op hul gesigte kan ek nie in hierdie beperkte ruimte beskryf nie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00e1 so \u2019n sessie met die gesin van \u2019n drenkeling pak ek voorverlede week te midde van \u2019n dreigende donderstorm die pad huistoe aan. En dis t\u00f3\u00e9 dat \u2019n openbaring my vierkantig in die o\u00eb tref. Dat ek as instrument gebruik word om helende wyn en olie op die wonde van treurende ouers te gooi. Nes die barmhartige Samaritaan wat hom oor die halfdood reisiger op die pad na Jerigo ontferm het. En toe besef het dat God \u2019n plan met ons almal se lewens het. Al lei daardie plan ons dikwels na die ashoop van hartseer en verdriet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
En so het die ramp wat bykans twintig jaar gelede op my pad gekom het my tot \u2019n inspirasie vir andere getransformeer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
My omskep in \u2019n oase en fontein waarby treurendes kan kom drink en vertroosting vind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Toe die eerste re\u00ebndruppels die stofdampe vanuit die dorre grond opwaarts loslaat, trek ek van die pad. Want toe was my sig reeds belemmer. Nie deur die druppels wat met ongekende re\u00eblmaat my voertuig gepeper het nie. Maar deur my eie trane. Trane van aanvaarding en berusting . . . <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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